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Leadership isn’t about busyness for its own sake; it’s about staying present enough to see the needs that appear in front of us each day. Even in a busy school office, the pressures of all the 'important' things in our schedule can dull our awareness of the ongoing needs within our school community. We must guard our daily calendars against eclipsing compassion, pausing to really listen, to observe, and respond, and carve out moments to check in with the people we spend our day with. People really notice when the Principal notices them.
This thought is still just as important, even though I am no longer working. I’m trying hard to shift my focus from my own pressures to helping others. When I do this, I feel grounded and recharged, and my energy, skills, and passions are directed toward something larger than myself. It’s a very satisfying feeling. One of the keys to healing and recovery from burnout (or any mental health challenge) is found in serving, giving, and being positioned for strategic and spontaneous acts kindness. It’s why I haven’t stopped my volunteer work with Project Help India. I’m grateful that my professional experiences translate to a very different place and context. Yet, at the end of the day, there’s something very much the same about kids wherever they are all over the planet. As I reflect on the work we do at Project Help India, child safeguarding is at the core of who we are. Serving alongside a gifted team across Kotdwara, Bijnor, Punjab, and beyond, I’ve seen how protection, education, and dignity are inseparable. It’s a daily commitment guiding every decision, partnership, and interaction with the children and families we serve. Last month in October, three examples illustrate our impact led by our team: 1. Strengthened child-protection collaborations: A first-of-its-kind meeting chaired by the Additional Superintendent of Police (Bijnor) brought together the Juvenile Justice Board, CWC officers, Anti-Human Trafficking Unit leaders, and police officials. Amrit Samuel, our Project In-Charge, shared field insights from Kotdwara and Bijnor to map concrete prevention and rehabilitation pathways with dignity and speed. 2. Community education in action: Our senior slum-centre students joined railway police for an anti-drug awareness street play at Kotdwar Station, delivering a powerful, community-driven message about drug harms. 3. Elevating our profile: Uttarakhand Police featured Project Help India on their official page, boosting our visibility and credibility statewide. Looking ahead, our Child Advocacy Summit initiative, launched in 2024 in Punjab and Uttarakhand, continues to gain momentum. Planning for the next Summit in March is underway, expanding cross-sector collaboration to protect at-risk children. If you share this commitment, might you consider partnering or supporting our work. Please message me if you’d like to know how. See Project Help India for more information
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Being impacted by significant burnout and turning 60 next year has given me a clear and confronting realisation that some health impacts aren’t reversible, and holding on too tightly to the old season can dim the light of what’s next possible. Now that I am in a new season of Spring, this awareness has landed most gently in the daily rituals that truly matter -like the walks I take with my granddaughter. Every morning, as we step into the world, I’m reminded that joy is both ordinary and extraordinary at once, and that simple moments can recalibrate a life. In the words of C.S. Lewis, I’ve been “surprised by joy.”
This New Chapter When I reflect on the arc of my career and health, the turning point feels less like a dramatic pivot (which it certainly was) and now more like a compassionate recommitment to exploring my ultimate purpose. It isn’t about giving up (as much as I battle that thought in my head); it’s about choosing a wiser path that honours my legacy, protects my health, and prioritises what matters most. The presence of my granddaughter on those short morning strolls has been a powerful compass. Her gorgeous smile, laughter, excitement, wonder, and discoveries of new things push me to slow down, breathe, and notice the world again -especially noting the small details that I have too often rushed past in the busyness of leadership, my work, and day-to-day life. My Health and Energy My body doesn’t rebound the way it used to. My focus now isn’t more for the sake of more, but what sustains me for the long haul -so I can show up for the people I love and for the communities I’ve had the privilege to serve. That means honouring limits, prioritising sleep and rest, and choosing routines that restore rather than exhaust. Those walks with my granddaughter are a daily reminder that vitality isn’t a sprint; it’s a rhythm I must learn to keep. It’s in the pace of a slow, curious approach rather than the pressure to perform at every moment. If I am to continue as a leader further down the track (I’d like to think that I am still considered to be one), I want to model a version of leadership that is sustainable and strategic, recognising when to pause, recharge, pivot, and begin again with intention. As I have previously mentioned, burnout is not a badge of honour -it's a painful and confronting reality, an accumulation of warning signs I chose to ignore for far too long. They were a wake-up call and I’m grateful it didn’t end worse. Relationships and Family The quality of relationships -the people I love, my wife, children, friends, and now my granddaughter, grows more precious with time. My granddaughter’s daily presence is a bright thread weaving through my days. I am marvelling at her growing grasp of language and communication. Even before she talks, she asks questions about the world, loves our morning walk (and now the swings at the park). Now that she is crawling, it’s fascinating to see her developing a sense of self, space, world, and safety, each reminders that life’s deepest work happens in ordinary, shared moments. Letting Go as a Strength Letting go isn’t loss; it’s been a decision to move toward a healthier, more sustainable future. I’ve learned to release some familiar things that once defined me -particular projects and daily achievements, old assumptions from my never-ending to-do list, my fast pace and relentless “more is better” mindset. I am learning that each letting go isn’t a retreat but a conscious reallocation of energy toward stepping into this next chapter with intention -focusing on what truly nourishes my health, supports and empowers my family, and protects blocks of personal time and the 8 hours of sleep I need. Have a Beginner’s Mind The next 12 to 24 months feel like a fresh map being drawn. I’m identifying new skills and ongoing supports, staying open to meaningful possibilities, so I can contribute in ways that align with my core values and who I want to be both now and in the future. I love the concept of being a lifelong learner. Now, in many ways, I am starting all over again. It’s both daunting and exciting. My Purpose and Core Values Letting go isn’t abandoning purpose; rather, it has helped me clarify what’s most important to me. It’s reorienting purpose toward health, sustainable impact, and my core values of love, justice, compassion, and kindness. The walks with my granddaughter anchor this shift for me, reminding me that kindness toward others begins with care for myself, and that a leader’s best work may start in the smallest, simplest, and most intimate of moments. I’m going to explore this further in one of my next posts. What’s Your Safety Net? If you’re experiencing burnout or other health concerns, seek medical guidance or mental-health support. You don’t have to navigate this alone. I’ve learned from my psychologist that asking for help is a sign of resilience and self-respect, not weakness. If you’re navigating a similar turning point or simply want to talk through next steps, I’m happy to chat. DM me to connect, share resources, or discuss a practical path forward—today or down the road. You’re not alone, and there are steps you can take. What small daily ritual helps you recalibrate and protect your wellbeing? I’m collecting ideas from peers who lead with heart. If you’re navigating a major transition, I’d love to hear how you find moments of joy and renewal. DM me to connect. Seasons come and seasons go both in life and in the wild and wonderful work of leading a school. Change is inevitable, and this year I’m learning that there’s less to fear when I am open to the changing seasons of life and start learning from what is happening in and around me.
There are many ways to consider what each of the seasons might represent. I have found it helpful to align life experiences with the seasons in the calendar year and, more broadly, to reflect on the seasons of my career and leadership. As I mentioned previously, Spring for me represents new beginnings and fresh growth. I’m definitely in an extended Spring, with some winter remnants hanging on. The winter I have experienced has been a time of challenge -a season of significant burnout. While reflecting on its impact on my personal and professional life, I have learned that burnout is not a badge of honour; rather, it’s a professional risk that can quietly erode impact, clarity, and flourishing. I’m learning that deliberate recalibration does not erase the past, but it has certainly protected my health, deepened relationships, and unlocked a more sustainable path forward. Coming out of Winter, I recognised that I had to let go of many things that were important to me -the joy of my work, so much of my identity, my successes and achievements, passions, projects, vision, and, most importantly, the privilege of a shared journey with students, families, teachers, my school community, and wider professional colleagues. Warning signs within my body, energy levels, irritability, and my mental health were telling me to let go. With so much at stake, a new season, a turning point was necessary, and what was needed was the courage to let go. When it comes to letting go, there are two paths we can choose. One path is attachment, not letting go at all -a fixed mindset, clinging to nostalgia and the glory moments, forgetting that the sun did not always shine as brightly as you recall. The other path is curiosity, growth, hope, and wisdom -sounds simple, but believe me, it’s as scary as hell. Perhaps you are in a winter season of your own -sometimes this can be relatively intense and short, part of the annual cycle of leading a school, and all that’s needed is to make it through to the end of the school term. But what do you do when the school holidays do not replenish your spirit, strength, and vitality as they once did? Perhaps your winter is a long and relentless grind of leadership challenges (not to mention the added pressures of your personal life and the ones you love) - you might see your relationships splintering, a very short fuse, the kids and people you love working with starting to irritate and annoy you, or that evening glass of wine becoming a weekday necessity. It took me two and a half years to listen to my doctor’s repeated warnings before I started to really listen. My turning point came when my anxiety was frequently debilitating -catastrophising even the smallest work-related problems and issues - the things I once confidently handled with professional skill and ease. Something is clearly not right when you begin to dread something you love so much. Which season are you in right now? I encourage you to use the current school holidays to reflect on which season you find yourself in. If it’s spring, enjoy all that’s new and wonderful - the anticipation of a fresh responsibility, a new role or project. If it’s summer and you're loving life, be filled with humility, generosity and gratitude for your vitality, productivity, and abundance. If it’s autumn, it’s a time for pruning, so have an open mind for creating new space, decluttering -be honest with yourself about what you need to change and let go of. If you are in a time of winter, experiencing emptiness and despair, I pray that you stay strong. Balance the grief and the hurt you are experiencing with gratitude. Know that you are not alone; God is always present. Seek help and support however this might be needed -people love you more than you know, and perhaps you feel. One of the wonderful aspects of leading a school community is that which is found in contrasts - celebrating achievements, mourning loss, living the highs and the lows, the joys and the sorrows with others, experiencing the growth and the challenge. Change is inevitable. Embrace the season you’re in, learn from it, understand that you are growing no matter what the circumstance, and keep moving forward with curiosity. The season will change despite your resistance or hanging on for dear life. In all of this your wellbeing isn’t optional. The people in your life who matter most need you to be your best self -and so do you. Love yourself. If this resonates, I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment if it helped, or DM me if you’d like to connect. If you’re navigating a challenging season, I’m happy to point you toward resources that helped me. #SeasonsOfLife #K12Leadership #WellbeingAtWork #EducationLeadership #BurnoutPrevention #LeadershipWellbeing #GrowthMindset #LeadershipResilience It’s definitely Springtime here in Sydney, Australia. The days are getting warmer and longer; I am getting to the beach most days, flowers are blooming in an array of fabulous colours (especially the azaleas), and the deciduous trees are showing off a new coat of brilliantly vivid lime green new leaves. It’s all magic! Coinciding with this, I find myself personally in Spring -a season of new beginnings and fresh growth. It’s been a challenging time, as you may know from my previous posts, I have “hung my hat” professionally. I am emerging from an extended Winter season with a 'professional pause' after 18 years in the rich, rewarding, and incredibly demanding role of school principal. I am working on myself in all sorts of ways, determined to heal and move forward in faith, and with optimism and belief that there are better days ahead. I am discovering myself again and getting to know the “me” that has been trapped inside the facade of being a school principal along with many treasured moments, the joys, challenges and the frenetic pace that came with the role - with the added layer of my perfectionism and inner-critic that have always demanded 110% of my energy and skills, and nothing less. So, now it’s Spring and I am concentrating on “me.” In my usual style I am fully committed to doing this well, over an extended period of time - thankful for a wonderful support network (my pillars of strength). I am seeing signs that my health is improving. I am a little less anxious, some nights I'm sleeping better, I am feeling more confident and I have a clearer perspective of what’s most important in my life. To get me to this point, over the past nine months I've had regular visits to my doctor and fortnightly sessions with my fantastic psychologist. Each has confirmed that I am going to need somewhere between 12 to 24 months for Doug Thomas to be back to being my best self. After a long stretch of winter (which isn’t fully over for me) I sense that my body and soul are feeling lighter, freer, and safer. I’m learning to trust my emotions and to reconnect with just being myself (some times I think I don’t really know him that well yet). I am ready for the work it will take to reconnect with who I truly am and to remake myself not with perfection, rather with honesty, courage and compassion. I am ready to take this one step and one day and at a time. A new season, a new tattoo For those who know me well I tend to over share. I have hidden quite a few tattoos hidden under my professional attire - all of them incredibly meaningful or sentimental about some aspect of my life. Just 2 weeks ago, I got a new tattoo in Bali - it’s of Japanese cherry blossom (sakura) - one of my favourite flowers. When I researched the symbolism of the cherry blossom, I knew I had to create a design, something that I’d love and remind me of this significant season that I find myself in... My research told me that the Japanese cherry blossom (sakura) embodies a reflective blend of ephemeral beauty and impermanence - beauty that is spectacular yet brief, an invitation to pause and cherish the present moment. Blossoms symbolise renewal and the promise of spring, a yearly signal of rebirth and refreshed energy that invites new beginnings while keeping the perspective of mortality and the cycle of life. The transient bloom prompts contemplation of time and the preciousness of every moment; hope, optimism, and a fresh start—a gentle invitation to start anew after winter. Gratitude and mindfulness. The Japanese ritual of 'hanami', of patient blossom viewing cultivates appreciation and a sense of shared experience. Transitions and social harmony - the collective celebration strengthens bonds, generosity, and hospitality. Samurai ethos -an acknowledgment of the interplay between life’s fragility and resilience and the value of living fully in the moment ...pretty special hey! Why am I sharing all of this? I want to thank you to the many people who have sent me such beautiful messages of encouragement. I am seriously humbled by so many who have said that I inspire you. In Hillary McBride’s book ‘Holy Hurt’, which I recently devoured, McBride writes: “It’s a form of social justice to be present with one another in moments of pain. We can be for one another the face of love… (p. 165).” I cannot thank you enough for your love and support. Your words have been powerful to me and my psychologist has been teaching me to listen carefully to what you are telling me. If you’re experiencing burnout or contemplating a pause in your career, you’re not alone. Reaching out for support - from doctors, therapists, mentors, and friends - can create the buffers you need to heal and grow. If you are going through a season of Winter, make Spring yours. If you are working crazy hours, loving your work but you’re exhausted and it’s all wearing you down - I’d say from personal experience that you are heading into risky territory. Seek professional support to give you the buffers, breaks, and tools you need to manage the demands and stresses of the role and for consistently being kind to yourself. Please be proactive in keeping your physical and mental health in check. If you are new to leadership, fresh with energy, passion, and vision -articulate and prioritise everything else that is important to you apart from your job and the identity that comes with being a school leader. By doing this, you will keep the balance and the perspective that is needed for the long haul, along with the potential to bring you great happiness, purpose, and satisfaction …to be a school principal was the best career decision I could have possibly made - I just would have done some things a little differently. I’ll be sharing reflections across this Spring Season: what I’m learning, the tools I’m using to protect my energy, to discover myself, to continue to live with purpose and conviction, and the lessons that might help other leaders navigate their own paths. If this resonates, I’d love to hear your experiences or questions. With love and gratitude for the incredible support around me. Doug It’s Sunday and this afternoon I packed up my office and reset the school alarm probably for the very last time. The last thing I literally grabbed from my office without realising what it was, was this poster that I made a few years ago. Bring on the next chapter 😢😊 Thank you Claremont for the best time ever. I will always be grateful 🙏 Thank you everyone too for your love and support. I feeling it. 🤎 I'm ready for what ever is next ...but I'll be taking my time.
Today, I bid farewell to my role as Principal of Claremont College. I’m hanging up my Principal’s hat. It’s a somewhat ironic coincidence that this moment aligns with Australian Primary Principal’s Day as I step away from this cherished role. Regrettably, I must place my career on hold due to ongoing burnout, fatigue, and some related mental health challenges. Leaving Claremont after nearly 30 years is deeply saddening for me. It has been a place where I found profound purpose and joy in serving 2 generations of students, families, and staff, and contributing to our community in Randwick, as well as to Australian and global education beyond our school gates. Walking alongside my school community has been one of life's greatest privileges, and I will always cherish the fulfillment this role has brought me.
Thank you to my current team, and to so many other brilliant teachers and staff I have worked with for inspiring me daily. I am also grateful to the many educators, school leaders, consultants, and others I've connected with over the years, from all places around the world, who have contributed to my professional growth and to my school's success. While I don't have immediate plans for the future, I choose to embrace this season as a time to rest, restore, and heal -seeking renewed energy, balance, and peace, both emotionally and mentally. I remain hopeful and optimistic about the path ahead, trusting God's timing and grace to lead me. I plan to stay curious and open, guided by my passions, especially my volunteer work helping vulnerable and marginalised kids with Project Help India (I'll keep perstering you about this on LinkedIn), while most importantly prioritising my health and cherished relationships with family and friends. Though stepping back from formal leadership, my commitment to helping others flourish and make a difference remains central to who I am, wherever my journey may lead professionally and personally. On this 'Australian Primary Principal’s Day', I encourage all school leaders to consider their mental health and to prioritise the practice self-care, while you do what I believe is one of the most important and rewarding jobs on planet Earth. Australia needs strong Principals and school leaders! I am sure I will connect with you again. With love and prayers for God's blessings in your lives, Doug. Hey there, it's Doug here. I wanted to tell you about a new initiative that I am very excited to be holding in India in 2 weeks. This is something that is very dear to my heart and has come from my many first-hand experiences working with slum kids, over the past decade.
First Annual Children’s Advocacy Summit Project Help India is set to host its First Annual Children’s Advocacy Summit, a groundbreaking event aimed at raising awareness of Project Help India and addressing key issues impacting children in Northern India. This collaborative initiative will bring together a diverse group of stakeholders, including community leaders, police, NGOs, faith leaders, and concerned citizens, to foster a unified approach to protecting children's rights and improving their future. The summit’s primary objectives include highlighting the achievements of Project Help India, while also giving a platform for parents and community members to share their voices. Some of the attendees will be parents who have been invited to speak about Project Help India, while also discussing ongoing concerns within their communities. Some of our students will give a short performance (which is always very cute!). A significant focus will be on access to quality education, particularly for girls, children with disabilities, and those in remote areas lacking school infrastructure. In addition to education, the summit will address critical issues such as child labour, trafficking, and the need for robust drug education programs. Discussions will aim to produce actionable plans for safeguarding children, particularly during times of crisis like natural disasters or extreme weather events, which disproportionately affect vulnerable children. Key political figures, community influencers, and media representatives will be invited to participate, ensuring that the summit generates national and local media attention. The event seeks to foster collaboration between all sectors, ensuring that community efforts are aligned in the fight to keep children safe and provide them with the resources they need to thrive. Through this summit, we hope to build lasting partnerships and identify concrete solutions to protect children's rights and improve their quality of life. We will be holding two meetings, the first will be in Zira, Punjab on 3rd October and the second will be in Kotdwara, in the state of Uttarakhand on 6th October. To be honest, I'm not sure how it will go. 30 people have been invited to each of the meetings - we have to start somewhere! There are so many children in both states of India who live in absolute poverty, and who are marginalised and highly vulnerable. Back in March 2023, the Project help India Team held a similar 'advocacy' event which was well attended with 350 community members - however it was not specifically focussed on children. It was the success of this event that made me think that more can be done for children. Their voice needs to be heard. You can read about it here Advocacy and Giving Voice = Love in Action The Project Help India Team and I would value your prayers and ongoing support and interest. Thanks for reading, Love Doug It was a great privilege for me to be an invited speaker at the ‘National Indigenous Empowerment Summit’ in Brisbane (May 12 and 13). The title of my talk was ‘Creating inclusive and supportive schools that foster connection, belonging and safety.’ My talk presented educational research aIong-side stories shared about my school, Claremont College. To be honest it was a little overwhelming to give my talk straight after Meena Singh, the Victorian Commissioner for Aboriginal Children and Young People. Meena made some excellent points about the rights of children, particularly in relation to their safety and wellbeing and she challenged me to constantly reflect on, and to be aware of the biases and racist attitudes/beliefs that I might have, even without realising.
For my talk I focussed on three main points;
I was incredibly proud to talk about my school, our students, our teachers and school community. What we have at Claremont is something that is very special. The audience especially loved a video clip I showed of one of my students giving an Acknowledgement of Country #proudprincipal. I am always grateful to attend conferences, to learn and come away with new ideas and perspectives. Some key things that I took away from the conference were a better understanding of the importance of connection to home and community, the concept of fostering ‘cultural safety’ at school and to consider ways to address and tackle racism head-on within a school or organisation. I was also challenged to think about how teachers can be trained (especially as part of their university training) to better understand and incorporate truth telling into their lessons and incorporated more broadly into the curriculum. Australia wide, there are so many important stories that need to be told, listened to and remembered. Healing and reconciliation will only happen with recognition. The many indigenous languages from across Australia also need to be valued, preserved and taught for the generations to come. Above all, it was a privilege to meet and learn from some really amazing educators who are doing inspiring work with indigenous students, their families and communities. I am particularly in awe of the many passionate and talented young indigenous educators who are leading the way. Once again, I am more convinced than ever that great teachers and inclusive schools bring hope to our student's lives and their futures. It’s often the little things that make the biggest difference. Northern India is presently experiencing an unprecedented heat wave. The temperature has been ridiculously hot, with no respite in sight. When you live in a slum, there’s certainly no western comforts, no AC, no cold fridge to keep your food fresh, just relentless heat made worse by corrugated iron sheeting and black plastic roofing. Add a sewer that flows by your door, you can probably imagine how bad it is.
I’m so proud of our team, who exemplified kindness and compassion in action … they couldn’t do much but they came up with the idea to deliver cold drinks - offering a friendly smile, a word of encouragement as well as checking in on the welfare of the elderly, mothers with babies, and with the parents of children who attend our education centres. If you look closely at some of the images below, you will see that many families are living on a busy roadside - still displaced from the monsoon floods from back in August last year. Basically it totally sucks! Yet in the midst of the many desperate moments, there is friendship, resilience, some laughs, conversations, human connections and smiles to be found. Jesus commands us to love our neighbour - for me this is what I think he was talking about. No matter where you are - can I encourage you to look out for your neighbour, what is the human need that you see in front of you? If you are serious in doing so, open your eyes, that need and the opportunity to make a difference in someone's life will not be hard to find. Remember, It’s often the little things that make the biggest difference. We can't do any of this without your help. Might you be able to pay for another round of cold drinks? $100 is all it costs and the impact is immeasurable. You can donate to my charity Project Help India HERE Thank you so much. Love Doug When going to school keeps vulnerable kid safe from exploitation and trafficking
For over a decade Project Help India has provided a beacon of hope for children trapped in the vicious cycle of poverty, drug abuse, and street begging. Through the unwavering dedication of our team, we have transformed the lives of countless 'Dalit' (also known as 'the untouchables') children, steering them towards education and better nutrition. Last week the children from Project Help India's Kotdwara Slum Center took a bold step by staging street dramas to raise awareness about 'Operation Mukti'. We are so proud of some of our senior students who bravely and most confidently handled the microphone to give speeches to the public. In doing this, their skills are growing exponentially and they provide a wonderful leadership example to the other students and to the many passers-by. Operation Mukti, spearheaded by the Uttarakhand Police Department, aims to rescue children from the streets and provide them with the opportunity to receive an education. It's a collaborative effort involving various government departments and NGOs, with Project Help India playing a pivotal role. Over the years Project Help India has participated in Operation Mukti, and we have been delighted and encouraged by the large number of confirmed new school enrolments that we have seen across the state. What is significant about this endeavour is the emphasis on changing mindsets about the value and importance of education. For many of the Dalits there is a belief and generational lived experience that school is not accessible to their children. Sadly due to entrenched prejudice still held by many in the community (coupled with hierarchies of power and control) it can be very difficult for the Dalit kids and their families to be accepted and included in a school community. The primary objective of Operation Mukti is to eradicate child begging, promote education, and raise community awareness to prevent child exploitation. During these awareness programs, senior police officials and representatives from human trafficking departments were present, underlining the seriousness of the issue. Our Director, Mr. Amit Samuel, engaged with the community to discuss solutions and emphasise the importance of supporting children's education. As Project Help India continues its mission, we stand as a shining example of how grassroots initiatives and compassionate actions, can bring about positive change and pave the way for a brighter future for the next generation. Through our collective efforts, we are striving to create a more inclusive and safer environment for vulnerable children, shielding them from the horrors of trafficking and exploitation. |
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